Mod Note: part 1 of this thread is here https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=334798.0Only that I have returned all of my responses, and supporting documentation, to the Attorney.
We decided to have him send a letter stating that if she reversed the PO on her own then I would abide by the terms but she could contact me at her discretion by US Postal Service only. If she did not reverse the PO on her own then we would be Subpoenaing her Medical/Mental Health records for the last 8 months and adding them to the response.
The goal is to get me out of this at the lowest monetary cost possible and that would mean skipping the Courtroom. Putting my bias aside, I was able to soundly refute all 12 of her accusations with text screen shots, phone bill records, and a signed, notarized Affidavit from a 3rd party refuting one of the claims.
I spoke with a Counselor that has extensive experience with BPD and their families/loved ones and was told that the PO is not uncommon after a break up, especially if there have been multiple attempts of a relationship, and that typically they are full of mistruths in an attempt to hold on to the Victim status they have become addicted to.
In my case she had her Hospital stay and at least started the DBT which means she should be feeling a large amount of shame and regret and accountability...according to the Counselor. Becasue of this her "reality " is/was crumbling and she needed to preserve it somehow. If the PO is thrown out by the Court it could make that crumble much worse.
I was also told by the Counselor that, in her experience/knowledge, PO reversed by Court, PO removed by exfiancewbpd, or PO in place...she will still reach out again in an attempt to recycle. That is just astounding to me, tbh.
I should know more in the next few weeks. Just need the process to work its way through. She will be in Ohio for 4 days in August so we will see if she makes an appearance.
