(Journal, Dec. 8/13)
I feel so consumed by all these thoughts... .never-ending, unstable. My body feels off all the time, weak, sick. I feel that dreaded sensation of fear in my hands, in my solar plexus, a malaise in my body, everywhere. I'm sick of this. I feel like a prisoner of myself. A prisoner of my thoughts, a prisoner of my emotions, a prisoner of my body. I try to curl up in bed and ignore it all, but I can't. I can't sleep. I just lay here and it torments me.
I look out the window. I see the blue sky. I see branches of trees. I see the forms of clouds. I want it to impel me to move, to get up, to desire anything other than lie here, but it does not. I don't care. I'm hungry, but I don't eat. I'm thirsty, but I don't drink. I'm tired of being immobile, but I don't get out of bed. I don't like the feeling of my stringy hair, but I don't get up and take a shower.
I don't want to think about him. I don't want to. I don't want to. But he's everywhere. He won't go away. It feels impossible to find places where he is not. I hate him. I love him. I just want relief. I want to remove all traces of him from my mind and memories so there are no triggers and I might be able to remember myself before him, to find myself without him.
I want to get up and do useful and productive things. But I don't. It feels impossible to do these tasks and have the thoughts and feelings in the background. I feel desperate to control my mind, to stem the memories, to force my mind to take a different road, to get off this painful track. But I fail.
The dis-ease in my body is my constant companion and reminder of my inner confusion and my severed attachment. He's gone. The abandonment itself is over, yet I re-live it day after day, like each day is a fresh abandonment.
I desperately want to fix me, help me, change me, heal me, move me. I don't know how to do this. I am mush. I have no form. I fear this void will never end. I'm angry at myself for not being more "together." I'm ashamed of being lost and broken. I want to be found and strong.
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just needed to get this out again... .maybe it will be of help to others to know they are not alone experiencing these things coming in waves, some good days, some really bad days... .today was better... .got out in the fresh air, actually exercised... .walked on the beach and did the stairs... .ate healthy food... .took care of my physical space... .listened to music and enjoyed it... .yeay me
... .cried tonight. practising loving-kindness and kind speech to myself. doing the best i can. each day is different.