the last few years have been a bit of a rollercoaster for me as i've tried to carve out some sort of a life away from the craziness of BPDs. my mother and 2 sisters are BPD and my father is a sociopath. for me... .ptsd is looking likely.
despite feeling like i am fighting an uphill battle, i have been slowly getting the drama (and dramatics) out of my life. i am nc with both sisters and my father. one sister surprisingly called nc with me due to me being so tired of being her counseller and listening to her twisted views involving how the world owed her something because of how special she was, so i started being truthful and called her out on her dellusion. every time she lied about a situation to make herself look like the victim, i reminded her of how it actually happened. needless to say... .BPD's don't like being faced with truth, they prefer their distorted version. so she nc'd me, which hurt because it made me reolize that she was only ever using me and was never interested in knowing me, but was also a big relief (her BPD dramas involved the police, guns, child protection etc), exhausting!
i speak to my BPD mother occasionally. last night was a bit of a trigger. my younger BPD sister has had some complications with her pregnancy and was flown by air ambulance to a baby specialist hospital. when i asked BPDm why she wasn't with her, she was horrified and stated "they won't pay for my flight to the hospital and they won't offer me a hotel for free!". i was so shocked at not only what she said but how she said it. like i was crazy for thinking that being there for her daughter when she was in a serious health situation. i think its the lack of empathy that horrifies me more than any other trait they have. their total lack of awareness and compassion for others, it makes them look like monsters.
any advise or experiences regarding this are welcome
