Silent treatment

[Ukgirl]

I'm totally new to this but have read lots of previous posts and this feels like the most appropriate site to talk to others about the issues I'm going through with my boyfriend.

I should probably give you some background info to start off. My partner is living in a secure mental health hospital so we only get limited visiting but talk and text regularly.

So at the moment with the virus visits have been stopped. I'm sure the pressures of this aren't helping but he's suddenly ignoring my texts. It began with a short, blunt message basically complaining my text had woken him. Since then nothing. It's only been 2 days but I'm really struggling to understand his behaviour. I understand his emotions can be very intense and overwhelming and he might need some space but why not tell me that? Of course I won't, but I'd like to tell him how hurtful and upsetting his silent treatment is and that I've done nothing wrong. I love my partner deeply and would do anything for him but these silences are so painful I'm thinking is it really worth all the effort I put into the relationship?

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[Naughty Nibbler]

My partner is living in a secure mental health hospital so we only get limited visiting but talk and text regularly. . .

He's suddenly ignoring my texts. It began with a short, blunt message basically complaining my text had woken him. Since then nothing.

I love my partner deeply and would do anything for him but these silences are so painful I'm thinking is it really worth all the effort I put into the relationship?

Hi Ukgirl:
Sorry about your situation.  Could you share a few more details?  It could be helpful and likely lead to a better response.

How long have you dated him (upfront & personal versus over social media)?

Is he diagnosed with BPD?  Any other mental health issues?

Is this the first time he has been in a locked facility?

Any idea of how long he will be in the facility?