Pregnant GF with BPD filed - part 2PFA

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What is the basis of the domestic abuse?

Have you physically touched her, pushed her?
Have you gotten in her face and screamed?
Have you restrained her?
Have you used money to control her?

These are te things that the SW is looking for.

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I never put my hands on her ever, I never would even so much as touch a woman in an aggressive way.
Never restrained her in any way, though she has me on more that one occasion.
I gave her money so she didn't lose her house or car and could pay bills. Never once did I withhold anything from her. I took my money out of our bank account Bc she cut my card off the night of the argument. I even waited for 2 weeks Bc I was worried about her then my lawyer told me to take it Bc she'd burn through it.

I screamed in her face that night 1 time Bc she was locking my expensive belongings in room and refused to give them back. Hence a previous ex having to sue her for his stuff. I saw the pattern and yelled out of frustration and anger.

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Don't lose you cool or get defensive in the session.

Ask vey specific questions. Like ask to understand why she feels abused - focus on events and dates, not generalities. Write them down.

If asked about the money say your attorney told you to take 1/2 the money because she blocked your debit card.

In short, listen, ask questions, try to understand (not agree) with her point of view. Then say you want think about it before the next session.