Hi Robin2727, we're glad you found us -- you've been through so much in your life, and it sounds like it's really added up over time.
Living with an adult child with BPD brings many parents to the point of feeling like they're going to have a mental breakdown. So, you're not alone here. Relationships with people with personality disorders (pwPD's) are the
most difficult relationships, and when it's your own child, that's a whole other layer.
You mention coping with PTSD -- can I ask, do you still have a therapist or counselor? Even if not for the PTSD, just for dealing with the extreme challenges of having your D48 living with you.
I hear some positives about your D48 here:
My daughter does not do drugs does not drink alcohol she is a bingeater but she does the work she goes to therapy twice a week, and for that I am grateful.
That's good that she isn't bringing drugs or alcohol into your home -- that can make things even more difficult with BPD in the mix.
As she is on total disability, does she have anything she leaves the house for? Volunteering, appointments, groceries, etc?
My first thought is finding a way for the two of you to have more space apart could be a good starting point.
Reach out and update us whenever works for you, and again, welcome;
kells76
