Flintridge, congratulations! I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy, physically, emotionally
and mentally.
I want nothing more than to protect my child and I don’t want them experiencing the same garbage I have the past 35 years.
I sure understand this. My kids provided me with the courage and incentive to better protect myself. I didn't want them learning bad habits or being treated the way I was. It does sound like your pregnancy changed the rules of engagement for her. Have the rules changed for you? Do you want to continue low contact with her? If so, are you able to maintain the same boundaries?
I felt powerless for so long. Part of breaking away from my NPD dad was realizing that I actually had power. I know you don't want to be engulfed, so what are your options?
pj