Life is good as long as everything's going your way.

[Rockylove]

Just a thought... .

my uBPDh said that I was happy and life was good as long as it was going my way.  DUH!  Is that such a foreign concept?  Doesn't everyone love life more when things are going well?  When things are as they imagined?  I know I'm a bit of an idealist, but I am a Pollyanna and always try to look on the bright side.   Was this just something he was saying to confuse or hurt me?

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[tjay933]

sounds like he may be looking for a new button to push? imo. or maybe he was projecting? maybe he's upset because everything should go his way not yours?

[joshbjoshb]

My suggestion is not to waste too much time in what was his intent when he said what he did. Because if he is not well, does it really make a difference what kind of non sense he is saying when he is upset?

[Rockylove]

He's definitely found a new button to push!  He's making new rules that I must follow or "get out."   :'(  He's in a foul mood and I'm not sure what's triggered it.  I'm definitely being painted black.  I'm not sure how this will play out.

[tjay933]

Rocky-so sorry to hear your entering a difficult time. please keep us updated if you can. are you in a safe place or do you feel you aren't? please be careful 

[LilHurt420]

I tend to say this to my uBPD husband a lot.  Maybe yours was projecting?

As long as my husband is "happy" (I put that in quotes cause I don't think he's ever truly happy) all is good in his world.  He never cares if I'm happy or not.

[Rockylove]

Well... .it's like last night didn't happen.  This morning he slept in and when he got up I'd already done a day's worth of chores.  I said good morning to him and he seemed startled but said good morning in return.  Everything is back to 'normal' again!  After I made him breakfast, I gave him a hug and a kiss and told him that I loved him and he said he loves me too.  Go figure!  The roller coaster ride continues~~hanging on tight!