Hello everyone! Braveheart768 here! 45 year old co-dependent male who's doing everything in his power to lose his co-dependency title AND further get over my ordeal.
Been dealing with the fallout from an ex girlfriend with BPD. The relationship was over in April but I believe, knowing what know now, it was over months before that. As of last week, it feels like it's FINALLY beginning to leave my system. It's been an extremely, extremely difficult Spring and Summer. We did not date but a few months and what has had my mind boggled was how it's taken me so long to let go. This was NOT a normal, traditional relationship (if it was, I wouldn't be here with you all
) and if it was, it would never have taken this long.
I've spent much of my time reading links and books about people with BPD, the characteristics, the fallout from relationships, the obsessiveness, the over analyzing, the 'What Ifs', the implementation of No Contact, finding your identity again, forgiveness and moving forward with the necessary tools to make sure I NEVER AGAIN put myself in a position where I'm over extending myself for someone like this.
I can tell you, as I'm sure ALL members have told the newbies... . there is life and hope after a the fallout from a borderline. It's grueling, exhausting and confusing at times and you just wish it would all stop. We all wish it was that easy. It's a journey of finding yourself again and making yourself a better person. It CAN be done. It WILL be done, too. Patience is the only thing you'll hate about this ordeal but you have to embrace it.
I'm glad to be a part of this group and am looking forward to sharing my situation and perhaps lending my ears and shoulders to anyone who needs the support as I'm sure most, if not all, of you will do the same for me. Remember: tomorrow is another step forward to freedom.
