So many guys... Why me?



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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.

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So many guys... Why me?

« on: February 06, 2015, 06:31:42 AM »

Ive had this question looming for several nights now... .Maybe it'll help to talk about it here.

My ex is a very stunning girl and you could sleep with her basically by saying hi to her.

So after SO. MANY. GUYS. - why am I the one she still has attachment issues with, long after the breakup?

It was such an unhealthy relationship. And yet for how much she supposedly "hates" me, suddenly all my favorite bands are now HER favorite bands.

She has easily 40+ guys & girls to mirror and obsess over. I don't understand why out of all those people, it's me.


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