He still refuses to let go

[VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?"]

*move forward in life.

[razemarie]

*move forward in life.

[woodsposse]

How do you move forward in life and move on from the relationship if they refuse to ever detach? 

The detachment and moving forward is what you do - because this is about you.  Always has been, always will be.  Your happiness start and ends with you.  You can live your life... . move on, do other tings and detach.  If they don't... . well... . they just make things a little difficult, but... . that's on them.

It took me forever to figure that part out.  Once I did and finally detached, things got so much easier in my head and heart.

[Cmjo]

Dear Razemarie

You must be tired. How we cope I dont know. I can relate to what is happening. Its one and a half years since I left uBPDexbf, the kids are 10 and 12 now. He has refused to communicate, I am getting abusive silent treatment instead of relentless emails like you! And for short periods he does communicate and tells me about his regular checkups for prostate cancer... . ! I also wondered why he didnt find a replacement, very confusing, I thought maybe it was me, tha left and stood my ground and tried to get on with my life to be a good role model for the kids... . therefore I was the BPD sufferer, because I seemed so harsh and callous, knowing he was in pieces... . ! I do sympathise that you dont want to go to court, that route is scary, I cant either, though finally have resorted to a lawyers letter! Good luck and keep in touch.

[razemarie]

Thanks everyone.  I am working very hard on detaching and moving forward.