My underlying hope is this, that maybe he will someday get the help he needs and realize that I was such a friend
As I reread this I recognize how far I have to go to stop being co dependent... .I still hope he sees me as a valuable person. My need to control the outcome is obvious. I told him what I thought I needed to say to him and now it is done.
Reading these posts, my ex was the same. He would talk about people with admiration and then devalue them, it was as if he couldn't see the complete picture of folks. The acceptance of how people are... over time I began to pick up this trait, I would look for the negative in people. My outlook became negative and depressed. Now that I am away from him I feel happier inside. Funny, letting go of the sadness brings me further away from him, someone I loved very much. And that is hard to accept, at times.