I am a Marine and a mechanic so mission accomplished and fixing things are the only way I know how to do things.
Well, let's work within those parameters then. It's important to realize what part of the mission is within your control and what you can fix. Start by focusing on those things. What are they?
As AB said, you are only able to control your part of things. She is responsible for hers. How can you accomplish your mission from that perspective?