Hi Wendy , thanks for responding
the girl she wants to move into am apartment with is 19 and a little bit more worldly. She's been homeless before , and was apparently kicked out of her step dads home at the age of 18. She already lives in a home where she rents out a room and it's connected to her work in a fast food place . My DD just packed her job in last week because she's not been enjoying it ( she was bussing tables in a restaurant , only lasted 4weeks in this job ) . So no job = no money and really quite delusional about how her future is going to pan out at this stage . She turns her nose up at most minimal wage jobs , has big ideas for herself too ! But doesn't really knuckle down at her online school .
Last night I asked them what the plans are, her friend said my DD wouldn't be able to move into the existing home the friend rents a room at because it's linked to her workplace , so her and my DD need to " save up a deposit and then rent an apartment but the lease would be in my name only " ( this friend is aware my DD has no credit history etc )
It's all pie in the sky as far as I'm concerned , it's frustrating to see my DD being unable to think logically and to realise how silly it is to compromise everything she has at home and to reduce any possibility at all of even finishing high school never mind going to college . She wants to throw all her potential down the toilet , simply because she likes to party with her friends and smoke /drink/do drugs whenever she pleases .
Obviously my hope is that in my new approach of not pointing out all the realities and avoiding getting into an arguement about it , and just standing back , I'm hoping she'll see sense ! Not to mention i highly doubt her probation officer is going to give her the green light to move out until she's of legal age to do so ! Give me strength to see this through without losing my patience ! Any suggestions about how I can be seen to be encouraging yet real ?
