The guilt comes from society's expectations and that we have been together for 25 yrs.
That's one half of society that doesn't understand the other half that are going through or are in separation /divorce because they've never experienced it themselves. You didn't get married to get divorced.
I'm worried about my kids who are now young adults. Obviously, they never saw a normal marriage. They saw a moody mother and withdrawn father. Be well,
I'm sorry to hear about how difficult it was on your kids but you're doing the work on yourself now, some people go through their entire lives going through the same motions, your kids aren't going to experience that from both parents.