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« Reply #30 on: May 17, 2018, 12:55:18 PM »

Interesting turn of events.

How did you go about leaving the door open?  

I told her that I appreciated her honesty and understood where she was coming from.  I told her that I didn't want her doing anything that she wasn't comfortable with and respect her convictions.  I then said, "if something changes I would love to see you again."  

Did she "cut it off" or is she just "thinking about cutting it off"?

She sent me a long text.  it started with, "ML, I have been thinking hard about this for two days and I don't think we are a match... ."  And "I am pretty sure I want to raise my kids Catholic."  That tells me she was struggling with the decision by putting "don't think" and "pretty sure".  I'm not going to overthink this though.  
She explained her convictions about wanting to raise kids Catholic and she understood and respected that I was an ordained Non-Denominational Minister.  She then said, "Good luck in your search and I believe your girl is out there for you!"  So she "cut it off" I would say.  I'm going to leave her with that.  It kind of sucked because she was pretty awesome and we had a great time.  it is what it is... .

So... .when is your next date... with a new chick?

Haven't set one up yet.  Going to start working on that.

Just so you know, I tend to use my knowledge of "push/pull" to attempt to keep my wife in more of a "pull" position, while I kinda stay aloof.

Things are much more stable in my home when that dynamic is present.  Sometimes I feel a bit manipulative by doing that, yet I remind myself to be pragmatic... .and enjoy the relative calm.

To be clear... .what is going to happen when you get "closer" to your ex?


FF

I get it.

We both like to have sex, and the sex is great.  i don't feel emotionally tied to her much anymore, plus, I'm single, and she's single... .I say, WTH?  that's all it is to me... .I don't feel bad about it either.  Maybe I'm wrong?   Smiling (click to insert in post)   When I start to date someone and it looks like its exclusive, then obviously I will change that.  

Afternoon MaroonLiquid,

 "... .my uBPDex, they must have some kind of radar to know when we are looking elsewhere ... .she started texting me, sexting me, and now inviting me a bunch of places ... .they don't want you but don't want anyone else to have you.  Ridiculous... ."

Yeah, Classic !

At least they are consistent in that regard  

Take care M-Liquid !

Red5



They are definitely consistently inconsistent!   Smiling (click to insert in post)  Thanks Red!
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« Reply #31 on: May 17, 2018, 01:18:38 PM »

We both like to have sex, and the sex is great.  i don't feel emotionally tied to her much anymore, plus, I'm single, and she's single... .I say, WTH?  that's all it is to me... .I don't feel bad about it either.  Maybe I'm wrong?   Smiling (click to insert in post)   When I start to date someone and it looks like its exclusive, then obviously I will change that.  

This makes me look like an ass after re-reading it and I didn't mean for it to come across that way.  There is some truth to not having to "work for it" as to why I'm still doing it. Plus, when I was talking to the other girl, I wasn't talking to my ex... .
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