Hi!
I was wondering if anyone could share any information about BPD's lack of sense of self?
My ex-partner wBPD who came back into my life recently told me that they (rather suddenly) don't know what they want, which is why they have been distant for the past few weeks. They also said that they don't want to lead me on "just in case" things don't turn full-on romantic, though they still might, but would still love to spend time with me.
The first time we saw each other and reunited, things were perfect. Super romantic and in love. That same day after leaving, they started to pull away (we've always had a very push/pull dynamic). As usual, I started to thought spiral about the "what if's" but I am trying to not blame myself because, as I have learned, seldom a time does it really have anything to do with me.
Can this have anything to do with an unstable sense of self? It seems very odd to all of a sudden not be sure of what you want when you knew for such a time. Though I suppose it might be common if you aren't quite sure of who you really are. This happens often... .impulsive behavior, the sudden anxiety or changing of the mind... .I'm wondering if there is a connection.
Thanks a ton for any offered insight