Hi TazM
I'd like to join everyone above and welcome you to the forum I'm sorry what brings you here and I'm glad you found us, you are not alone. As August93 says not focusing on the cuts and instead validating the deep pain, distress, hurt helped my 28DD.
My DD has not cut for the last year, she's been in DBT for 12 months and prior to that was in an informal DPT skills group for a few months (set up to bridge the waiting list). Like August's DD the cutting got less and less till it finally ceased. In the informal DBT skills group DD practised self soothing and when she shared this with me I was able to validate her efforts. She found putting together a self soothing “coping” box helpful and filled it with meaningful things to help her cope, favourite perfume, music, cuddly toy, soft socks, photo of grandma, hot chocolate sachets, note and colouring books, pens, origami paper ... .the no 1 favourite is Lush products, especially bath bombs ... .We also invested in new bedding, soft blankets and cushions, mood lighting, aromatherapy. This provided my DD something tangible to help herself, a focus on self care to help her through the distress she feels.
As LP says changing our approach, learning the tools and lessons
helps us slowly move forwards in the right direction.
What other behaviours are you dealing with? I hope all goes well with the new therapist and look forward to reading your posts. You've a lot on your plate, it's important we take time out for self care, are you able to do that?
WDx