New Member: A reality I haven't wanted to face

[Rodger Dandger]

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[SaltyDawg]

I read what you wrote.

Other than make sure that each you have your own individual therapists, and a couple's one too would be my suggestion on this, as you guys definitely need to set and enforce boundaries, I don't have any suggestions other than try not to trigger her.

Here are some good reads on how to manage her.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life by Margalis Fjelstad

Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger

[Outdorenthusiast]

We have all asked that question at one point or another.  You are not alone.  An individual therapist helps a lot to process the grief, anger, confusion and everything else.  Educating yourself (there is tons of good information on this site) can help you figure out next steps.