I'm going to encourage you to stay put for a month or two. Here's why..
Regardless of the romantic relationship between you and your wife (or perhaps ex in the future) there is a relationship that will endure.
I think you need to learn some skills that can help that relationship.
After our son went to bed she handed me a little note asking if we could go to town tomorrow, “you know why. I just want to do it like a bandaid”
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What does that mean?
What did you say in return?
switching gears.
In
Cat Familiar's post she made a very...VERY important observation about the effect your proposed speech could have on your wife.
Did you catch that? Understand that?
Best,
FF