my starting point is believing my son 'can' be self supporting and live on his how if he chooses to.
It's a big step to be able to say this to yourself, Normlee.
A lot of things flow from this once we tell ourselves what's possible.
He mentioned it made him feel bad to be taken care of by us.
I can only imagine. Do you see him taking any steps to improve his self-respect?
I asked him to contribute by helping us with some things that are needing to be done. He agreed. Let's see if he follows through.
With my son, if he brings up a topic when he's in a talkative mood, I suggest things like, "Hey, let's talk about this while you do xyz. I'll give you a hand to get started."
Then I duck out and let him know I'll be back once I do this and that.
With people who are impulsive I figure a gentle nudge is necessary.
His BP brain says he'll go back to electrical. But he's been advised not to.
Would he consider teaching?