will their fear of abandonment push the into. a decision

[BP39]

I ask that.to get the answer to this .when I first was in our homeymoon stage my ex was military so was I .I was at the end of my required time of service and was discharging she was not but went awol in the fear that I was leaving her.

As our years have went by she has cheatrd been in other rs ... when I make myself available and she has no supply we always get back together.

This time is different I filed fordivorce and left her way alone as she abandoned me and our kids as she was with her new love of her life.I let her run as far as she wanted to go.but after seeing me a couotle of monthe ago.shes been back to the I love you and wanting to get back together. While still with the replacement obviously it was fun at first but is getting old

So ive made myself available reassured her that im there.and say I love her.

Im wondering if I losen the grips show her indifference and. That I will leave her for good if she doeent get her ball rolling and. Come back .will it trigger her fear of abandonment. To straighten things out... .  im not sure if this the right board for this.

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[ambi]

Are you hoping to reconcile?  If yes, the undecided or staying board might offer more support and tools for that.