My adult daughter

[Chilli]

Hello all.Again looking for some advice.Would any other parents of BPD children/adult children have found their child to lie a lot. We have a daughter with BPD and we just can't believe a word she says.She lies all the time and is so convincing.Also she never takes on any advice anyone gives her,she continues to engage in self destructive,risky behaviour despite continuously being advised not to.Appreciate any comments.Thanks.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[SoSoSoTired]

My BPD daughter lies continuously about everything.  She's manipulative and very talented at it.  She does horribly dangerous and grotesque things which put her life at risk just because "she was lonely".  She blames everything bad in her life on everyone else.   She won't attend therapy, but does take mood stabilizer medications. 

My aspiration for her now is, sadly, incarceration.  In prison she'll have a continuous babysitter, be safe from her insane behaviors, and receive free food and medical care.

[Chilli]

It's such a horrible disorder.My daughter is exactly the same.I'm so tired of picking her up and sorting her out only for her to go out and do it all over again in a few days.We have brought her to so many counsellors,dbt not available here,nothing seems to help.I'm so afraid of her going too far and getting seriously hurt or worse and she doesn't care.We have now set strict boundaries that she is home with us every night and if she doesn't keep to it she has to move out.I also think she is adopted to boys, it's just one after another and after a week or less she loves them and if they finish it she is back in crisis and suicidal.Thank you for getting in touch.It can feel very lonely sometimes.

[penny52]

My d27 is not diagnosed yet, but once again she has left a relationship with her ex in shambles and me dealing with web of lies that at this moment seems endless and confusing as hell, unfortunately there is children involved. I can feel your pain Chili, I have set boundaries and I'm learning every day how to keep them and response to her in a non confrontational way. I find by not responding to her dramatics with any type of dramatics of my own (anger, sadness ect... ) are helping, I repeat what she says to me and calmly tell her "I'm sorry, I don't think I can help with that problem maybe you can call or ask... .doesn't work every time but by me just not getting excited takes away some of bite out of her. Sorry I'm not much of a writer, I hope the best for you and a little therapy like this site can help.