want to know why...

[herMUSE]

So for a pwBPD, they tend to push away from people to avoid getting too close,... .correct? So why is it that certain people my pwBPD can always be SUPER close with her and she never pushes away? She will call me vent and tell me how HORRIBLE or how IRRITATED she is, but those people she doesn't push from? Why? And AM I the only one going through THAT?

- signed currently in emotional time out!

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[married21years]

No I know exactly what you mean.

my with had a bestie and she cloned her, even suddenly had an abusive mother like her. this person gives her supply as she believed the wife completely.

then the bestie believed that the wife needed protecting from me.

there was a choice for the wife. me or the bestie. guess what the wife choose me. and the bestie blamed me for all this.

the community blamed me for this. everyone blamed me for her lies and problems.

this is why we need to get all this sorted and i will never cover for her again.

[herMUSE]

WoW! That's crazy!   I have never experienced anything like that - but, I will say that after reading a lot of things about this disorder, I think my ex before this one, had it too. The stories that she would create in her head and act out upon were so ridiculous, they were literally unreal. I'm sorry!

my pwBPD just has had friends or people in her life for 12+ years. CLOSE people. I just wonder if that is something that she 'doesn't' push away because they know the *REAL* her; and she feels comfortable with it. I'm not sure. I know for me if *I* have an issue with someone, I won't talk to that person. HER on the other hand, she will call me, (get close) tell me all these horrible things about one of her friends and then turn around and be buddy buddy with them like nothing happened. THAT is when I really started to suspect that something was up with her... .and I wondered 'damn, does she do this to me with other people?' no wonder everyone says that she needs to leave me alone, especially IF shes going around doing all this with other people (talking about them) & then calling and confiding in me.

*sigh*

[DestroyedKnight]

I really do wonder why they do this?.I have witnessed the same thing with my udBPDexgf. For years and years she would have nothing but bad things to say about her sister and mother and since kicking me out of my own home the sun now shines out of their backsides again and she is at her mothers on a daily basis.

Even with her sycophant neighbor who she has become all friendly with I witnessed her sitting there huffing and puffing one day when she text her and she said under her breath "oh go away and leave me alone" then next minute she is posting things with her on fb. Crazy making which I will probably never ever understand