Split with BPD girlfriend week ago, had no contact

[Barmcake]

Hi all.

  I am at the end of my tether as to if I have made the right choice to end things with my BPD ex. I sacrificed a lot for her and it just feels like it was waste of time. It is devastating to know that I have suggested for her to attend DBT of which she said she would. I have isolated myself away from my friends and family as she prob (assuming) painting me in a black way and those who truly know me would know that I am the most loyal, honest, caring and loving person.

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[juju2]

Welcome!
You are in the right place.

When you are ready, if you could share what you want, and let us know what you are dealing with.

Your history.

People here care, have wisdom

Keep posting, 

juju

[Mutt]

Hi,

 

Id like to join juju and welcome you to bpdfamily. I’m that you decided to join us! I’d like to echo juju What’s your back story? You’re not alone.

[Barmcake]

Well it all stemmed from her talking to someone who i feel is a threat to the relationship. I discovered this girl was at the gf house as soon as my back was turned. I do trust her but so much has happened... .she was in a domestic abuse relationship with a narcisstic man and they have a boy 2getha who I've helped raise as his father is now in prison. Last weekend we really has a good heart to heart chat and thought could work on our relationship. Next day she flies off to see my best friend... .probably to have a blow out on drugs. I decided that I would end it with her... .that was last week and I've not heard from her since. It is breaking my heart

[pearlsw]

Next day she flies off to see my best friend... .probably to have a blow out on drugs. I decided that I would end it with her... .that was last week and I've not heard from her since. It is breaking my heart

Hi Barmcake,

I am sorry you are dealing with such difficult things! If she is the swirl of drug use  you are likely not even on her radar. All that matters is access to the drug. Sadly.

Is her child being cared for by you or someone else?

Is her life in danger with the drug use?

with compassion, pearl.