Hello thewilltoleave,
It was inspiring to read your post, which demonstrates the insight and progress in your journey. Thank you for sharing
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Realizing I can be honest about how I feel and put it out there and they often open up too has been a huge part of my own progress. I'm also very motivated by what helps others, and one of my friends said that me telling her how much I was struggling surprised her, and it made it easier for her to then tell me everything she was going through really opened my eyes to what being closed off keeps us all from.
I learned that lesson here on BPD family. In the right company, being vulnerable opens up the space for deeper connections and truthfulness. It isn`t easy (at least it isn`t for me!). There is no need to maintain a `perfect` facade. We`re all learning and growing. I`m glad that your friend opened up to you, and hope you have many more of these enriching interactions in the future.
It sounds like you are recognizing your strengths, and making your way through the grieving process one step at a time. You`re right in saying that you are not alone. As you grow through the next big hurdles, turn towards your support (here, friends, therapy) and be kind and patient with yourself. You are strong and resilient.