BPD and NPD question

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

To use an analogy, if you won the lotto every day for a month, would you notice the direct deposit of your regular paycheck in your bank account?

Falling in love = winning the lotto.

Having a sustaining bond with your partner = regular paycheck.

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[GreenEyedMonster]

To use an analogy, if you won the lotto every day for a month, would you notice the direct deposit of your regular paycheck in your bank account?

Falling in love = winning the lotto.

Having a sustaining bond with your partner = regular paycheck.

@thisworld, your inbox is full.

[braveSun]

@thisworld

I like your description. If we are talking about drug abuse (heroin is a drug), in this case the subsequent insensitivity to normal states of pleasure is called anhedonia.

I believe this concept relates to the 'high' in love relationships that is so very important for the pwBPD. It's a magnet which assures there will be love tomorrow morning, no matter how disrespectful today's behavior. Naturally the endorphins of orgasms shared with a new partner after she/he has been exposed to love bombing and triangulation tactics is quite a high. This seems to go the same road as with a substance addiction, but here it is a process addiction (endorphins of the 'falling in love' stage).

I like to remind myself my ex pwBPD has a sex addiction. And that's exactly what you are describing. Could be with no drugs other than the chase of the 'high' effect in a new, unsuspecting person. Addicts have no compassion for you if you are the object of their attention, except if you can be instrumental and there is a way for the addict to get to the supply through you.