Hi.
I have seen several people here ask similar questions. The thing is, yes, the increased stress and depression can increase our own undesirable behaviors but those behaviors are ours. Under stress our own bad coping behaviors will come out. That is why we focus on the tools and really understanding our own stuff and behaviors.
Have you seen this?
Distress Tolerance Skills You will see that you are not alone in the way you have been reacting. Self care is so important so that we do not lose ourselves in the dysfunction.
See what you think of the article and we can talk about it.