If I ever answered I was screwed and if I didn't answer I was screwed. Anyone relate to that?
Yes, I've experienced that. And like the first reply says, it is testing behavior. Even if you get one question right, it just leads to another and eventually you fail the test.
It seemed like my uBPDh had a script in mind and my answers had to match or else I was being "willful" (his favorite word when I don't meet his expectations). The first couple years I always fell for this, always wracked my brain for the best answer or the answer he wanted. I would wind up pleading for mercy and he would hang up on me and go NC for days (this was a long-distance r/s that became a commuter marriage).
Over time, I just learned to say, "You're not going to quiz me on this." It made him less angry than when I gave the wrong answers. The behavior occurs in his pushing-me-away phase, so it's not possible to appease him. I would also try STOP responses (Sorry you feel that way/That's your opinion/Oh!/Perhaps you're right), but from what I've read here, the best is SET (Sympathy statement/Empathy statement/Truth statement). However, when he gets like this, he is supposed to do all the talking; if I say something other than to answer a question he hangs up immediately. We are currently NC and I may divorce him.