Thank you. That's where I'm trying to get. Understanding and how to fix it and help her see things an realize them. What I can do to open communication with her. I know the other things associated and analyzing how I am and what I need to do while she's gone. I've got all that. I NEED HELP to reach her.
I do not know how you can fix her dependency on her husband. That is something that she needs to break.
If you have tried reaching her on the messenger and she has not responded there is not much you can do other than wait for her to reach out. From my experience, talking about feelings/emotions can trigger a pwBPD.