I def see the "angelic" side of my wife.

[DrA]

I def see the "angelic" side of my wife.  I am totally grateful for that.  Sounds like my wife is better than most BPD's in that I always say she is the sweet loving kind girl I married for about 5 minutes of everyday.  It is usually at night in bed when all of the kids are in bed and her phone is off.  For about 5-10 moments she is more affectionate and even often she seems to remember she likes me again.  I adore those moments!  Just as with any BPD relationships, sometimes I think life couldn't get any better and that I am so happy.  Then, completely out of the blue a tirade tantrum happens.  Very confusing! 

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[Hmcbart]

I see that side of my wife early in the morning just before she really wakes up completely.  Once she wakes up she remembers that she hates me and I'm evil and the day gets normal again 

That is unless of course she had a dream where I was being mean to her then she wakes up mad and even hits,kicks and scratches me in her sleep. She once went to bed happy, had a bad dream that I was mean to her and she stayed mad at me for almost a week.

How's that for batsh1t crazy, I can't even escape it when she's asleep!