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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: August 13, 2016, 08:48:04 AM »

Today I realized that... .
Everytime I told something true, he raged.
All the things I said demonstrated to be true, in the end.
Rage= truth

I saw too much truth in the end.
I had to be discarded.
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« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2016, 09:00:29 AM »

Sometimes when we try to communicate with our partners, they rage. Often we may find that things that were true are things they seem to rage at. I don't think rage shows what was true.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

What's on your mind UnforgivenII?
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« Reply #2 on: August 13, 2016, 09:08:15 AM »

The "friend" he had to help... .he cheated with her. When I questioned that-rage.

The ex who came to see the cat... .they did not split up in 2011. Her name was still on the front door. They split up less than one year ago. When I questioned that... .rage.
When I told him he never loved me, he raged.

The ex whose pumpkin lamps were all in his flat... They were not over yet. They are together now.

When I questioned that... .rage.
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« Reply #3 on: August 13, 2016, 09:16:16 AM »

When you're close to catching someone cheating, that person is more likely to throw a tantrum. It's tough to be in this situation with a partner.

You were okay with being with him when his ex's name was on the front door? Just wondering, that's all.

What kind of reaction from him are you expecting if you question him about a relationship he is in now, when you aren't together with him UnforgivenII? Just wondering again. Smiling (click to insert in post)

I think there's a lot of tantrums from your examples. Tantrums are hard to receive. It was one of the major reasons why I ended things with my ex.
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« Reply #4 on: August 13, 2016, 09:27:09 AM »

But I did not question him recently. I questioned when I was with him.
And yes her name was on the front door and I asked and was answered they ended in 2011.

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« Reply #5 on: August 13, 2016, 11:12:23 PM »

What are your thoughts about that name on the front door UnforgivenII?
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