What does "fear of engulfment" mean?I saw this on that thread, and it is definitely an honest statement:
"The most important part of healing is turning the focus onto ourselves. I personally found it very helpful in my own journey to learn about BPD and its pathology. Not only did it help me make some sense out of the relationship itself, but it also helped me figure out what in me was drawn to the relationship. Learning how I fit into the pathology was a positive thing for me. It opened the door for me to examine my own core wounds, unhealthy patterns, and cognitive flaws. Because The Question will always be - Who are we? What needs were we trying to fulfill in these relationships? What wound in our soul were we trying to fix? How can we fulfill these needs and nurture ourselves in healthy ways?"
If anyone is familiar with the Enneagram of personality types, one shadow side is BPD. I don't want to go through the same hell my friend goes through every single day. She has professional help, meds, and CBT/DBT in her toolbox, plus us family & friends who care. But with your suggestion on fear of engulfment, is it possible my friend is struggling yet again?