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Quote from: strikeforce on November 15, 2013, 06:13:18 AM
Is there any examples on here of therapy/professional help working?
There are success stories. Steph over on Staying Board has a success story with her BPD husband, and there are others. Dr. Marsha Linehan, who developed DBT, suffered from BPD. There is a great book called
Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder
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I can't speak to BPD women and their sexploitations, but my uBPDexbf said something odd during sex toward the end of our r/s: he muttered "now you will see what a pervert I am" while he was going at it from behind and becoming increasingly aggressive. He also grabbed his camera phone and started video recording us from that angle. After that he clutched my hair and shoved my face into the mattress. (I was just thinking about this the other day; I still don't know what to make of this.)
Maybe that's a regular guy fantasy and not a BPD hang up. Maybe my past boyfriends wished they could have recorded sex with me but were afraid to ask.
I didn't want to shatter the mood for him, he seemed to be having such a good time, so I went with it. I also felt he was expressing some of his deeper desires and I didn't want to be a prude. I wanted to please him in whatever way. Also, he had been increasingly withdrawing attention from me up to that point so when he was suddenly all horny that day I was just glad for the attention.
Before all that, our sex life was pretty standard. Although I let him break some of my sex boundaries early on. I mean really, anything this guy wanted I gave him.
Also, my ex had a bunch of slutty Facebook women friends that he followed, you know, those women who post half-naked model photos of themselves. He had a bunch of that. Which is also typical guy stuff. And he had the usual stash of porn.
I didn't ask my ex much about his past because I didn't want to know. So maybe he is a raving sex addict and has slept with half the town. Who knows? I just cared about him being with me. I do think however that he kept his options open with women while we were together. I always had a suspicion of that. Then right before he ended it he started threatening me, saying that a bunch of women wanted to sleep with him. Which I guess was his way of saying he was some stud and he was tempted to cheat. That's what hurt me most.
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She told me she'd had 55 sexual partners and she was 28, really aggressive/submissive, loud wanted very physical painful sex to the point of rape fantasies, loved showing of to me she was the hottest girl i'd ever had (she wasn't) but no boundaries to anything. Got very repetitious, same old stuff, always drunk and other stuff. NEVER tender or loving, very athletic porno style. Very objective about her body, would sit in her knickers at first when i got back and say 'am I the best girlfriend in the world'... .no very far from it ... but it was fun. the lack of tenderness and never getting closer, safer always felt palpable, whatever she said.
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