Keep in mind friends, BPD isn't a mental illness... .it is technically an emotional disorder. It's a core disorder. You can't regulate it with drugs. Drugs can help some of the co-morbidities but this is a PART of them. It's their character.
Try changing your character... .good luck with that!
Years of DBT therapy can help but we are talking YEARS. The longer is is untreated the more it is engrained into them. My ex is 43... .I think she is pretty darn resistant to a cure.
This is a sad disorder and I am not telling anyone to give up. We are on the leaving board and there is a staying board here as well. I don't discredit those folks.
I was never on the staying board because I ended up here each time she left me... .. I never felt I had a choice in staying.
I found some really interesting things out the other day from an ex of my ex. During one of our breakups she was told by my ex that the ex was terrified I'd hurt her. That my mood swings were beyond bi-polar and I was insane.
I gotta tell you... .I needed to hear this. This relationship has really destroyed me in many ways. I work with my ex's sister and she thinks I am a loon. Now I can see why.These people of "bad character" will tell awful lies about you... .and they will ALWAYS find enablers to believe them.
It's like this... .a poster over the past few days wrote: A leopard never changes it's spots.
Keep that in mind. Your "replacement" is going to be lied to, cheated on and smeared just as you were. It's part of their pathology.