Because I felt so guilty and hurt (believe me, it hurt ignoring her like that, especially when I saw that she'd cut herself recently... .)
These feelings will go away. It takes time.
Yet I feel like even NC isn't working
It takes time and you also need to detach. NC is a radical measure to remove ourselves from someone that is toxic in our lives. That's half of the equation and it's not enough to simply go "No Contact" The other half of the equation is
detachment.
If you look at the right side of the forum and check the
The five stages of Detachment ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
I would suggest following the lessons step by step. It's the attachment that causes your suffering.
Case in point:
she's in the group
she's omnipresent
Control is an illusion. She's not omnipresent.
Here's my point.
Anaïs Nin — 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.'
You feel like she has some sort of control over you and your life because you're still attached and your not seeing things as they are. Continue detaching, work through the steps, be patient and remember that this takes time.
What stage do you feel you are at in the
The five stages of Detachment?