She constantly walked 30 paces ahead of me when in public, I finally started to call her out on that, usually by joking.
Same think with my wife. I also called her out. For years she denied it. Then one night (after a couple of glasses of wine) she admitted that she did it to "
make people hurry up a litle". Now she's forgotten about that particular explanation and has no recollection of ever doing it.
A variation is the "walk away-rage". This happens when she doesn't know in what direction to walk. She has a hard time admitting that can't find her way to a particular location and out of sheer frustration she just goes east or something (not listening, not looking back). This is very humiliating because I have to shout to her to stop or run after her to make her turn around. Otherwise I'll have to wait for her to eventually come back, and then she'll be really mad at me for not "abandoning" her.
Other embarrasing things that my wife does in public:
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Gets too excited or too drunk at parties. The excitement part is pure theatre and she can do it without alcohol. It's totally out of character compared to the person she is at home. Then she gets impatient and annoyed at me for being a party-pooper when I'm just being my normal self (I don't get visually excited at parties!).
The too drunk part is self-explanatory.
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Get into shopping" and ignore me for hours until i physically grab her and say "
Hey! I'm leaving now!". Sometime she's promised not do it - just to have a "quick peek" - and gone into some kind of trance and tried to ignore our agreement. She pretends not to hear me! And this is EXACTLY what my three year old daughter does at the moment. When she doesn't want to go to daycare she'll just pretend not to hear me telling her it's time to go.
Having to raise my voice and physically get my wife's attention in a shoestore is of course extremely embarrasing.
Another think dealing with shopping is that she
keeps suggesting things to buy when we have no money (and I mean NO money). She does this over and over (me saying - "
No, we have NO money", until I finally have to tell her to stop talking about buying things because it makes my stomach ache. I'm ashamed that I have wife that I can't reason with, that I have to "tell off" or she won't understand.
I'm not easily embarrased, but being treated like a servant, hanger-on or daddy is not my cup of tea at all.
