Jellibeans - what a relief. You put so much into the search for the next step, I am glad it seems a good fit for your D.
I will update after our meeting next week. I have been happy so far with Menninger and I think my dd has liked the approach too which is less punitive and strict. Seems like a really kind and gentle envirnoment and I feel she needed that right now.
This is a powerful statement. Learning and then putting into practice tools for a "kind and gentle environment" has worked in my family. It is still takes a constant awareness of my own state to be able to use the tools with each individual in my life. I still get mad and either yell or cry. Especially with gd (yelling) and DD (crying). Dh seems to get my whining more than anyone else.
Getting some R&R while she is at Menniger's is so good for you and your family. Pausing to just look across the room and not into the future creates some rest as well.
I will be thinking of you next week and praying for a clear result from the testing, and that this will lead to a good next step.
qcr