Still detaching from r/s from hell after all these years... .but can't deny the progress
Wonderful, good for you! It can be a hell of a process, and it sounds like you've come a very long way with it -- and through it.
Good news seems to be close to zero sexual attraction between us at this point and looks like forgiveness has set in. Maybe the former is a mutual survival instinct, if so, I'll take it. The latter seems real... .no more anger.
That sounds like a very healthy place to be. Might not undo the pain that you've been through, but seems like a big step in confirming where you are in your detachment.
Truth is I could never be her friend and she can't be my friend. We might be comfortable together but she never got to really know me (don't think she is capable ordoesn't want to) and I know her too well and don't want to know more.
That sounds a lot like acceptance
No doubt it can take a while to fully set in, but maybe this helps you to further let go of some of the difficult emotions still lingering from the attachment you shared?