How do I feel? Really sad that I have not raised successful adults. My dd living in subsidized housing. She will be on house arrest. She is dependent on methadone for an opiate addiction. Her norm at tax time is 4 W2s. Her jobs are short. She will need my help for a long time with my gs. I can't see her being able to mother on her own. As my sister calls her - a part-time mom. I don't think that she can handle the role full time. And, I gasp today, as she talks about wanting another child when she is about 32. She will be 29. And, she does not want to be married. Defintiely did not pick up my values! I can only pray.
Then there is my ds, age 31. I believe that he is NPD. I see a lot of my ex husband's traits in him. I still love him, in spite of that.
I just learned that he is a heroin addict. He is an IV user. And, that is breaking my heart! His dad was an IV drug addict, too.
I go to church, and I pray. That truly helps me.
I work, minmially outside of the home. My primary job is taking care of my mom.(which is a privilege and an honor) Also, I watch my gs, every other week. His mom works afternoons, so he stays with me, most of that week.(her custody week) I have a very per diem job. I am down to only one patient. I am an LPN, and I give my "one" patient insulin. I would like to work more outside of the home. In fact, I ran into a former co-worker and mentioned that I am interested in returning on per-diem basis. My current job only gets me out of the house 45 minutes at a time, on the few days I am scheduled. I love getting out of the house. But, the hours would have to be every other week and aft. shift.(sister works dayturn and she could do aft.w my mom) Hmm... . I notice as I am typing this that every other week because I watch my gs. Honestly, I wish this did not have to be a factor.
And, I feel responsible for the way my life has turned out. Of course, I had my issues as a young adult. I married my ex and had his children. I was immature and perhaps had BPD traits at the time. I was such different person. I call it a lifetime ago. I have done a 180. But, the fact is that I married a BPD (w/NPD traits), and both of my children are afflicted. And, my ex's side of the family are all NPD/BPD.
I realize that it is time to get back into therapy. And, I realize it is time to take care of me.
Vivek - I really had a good laugh about the wrinkles! I look at my wrinkles, and think, WOW! I believe they started appearing about five years ago for me. I am soon to be 56. I always looked about 5-7 years younger. Not, anymore, I look my age! If I had the money, I would think about some collagen injections. Not, surgery, but just some collagen!