Hi BPDmom504,
I'm glad you joined and decided to post! You've found a great place for support. Members here understand the challenges of loving someone with BPD, and the site has tons of resources to help make things better for you.
I'm sorry that you feel pulled in a million directions. That is difficult, and very understandable.
How often do you see your daughter? Is she in treatment?
Keep posting. It really helps to share. We're here to support you.
heartandwhole