Hey... expand on this.
Are they in "compliance" with the temp order? Have they paid everything to you required in the temp order?
No, in my opinion, they are not in compliance. Examples:
FIL is supposed to take care of the pool. I notified CPA in May about the issues with the pool. I already put in $1100 trying to get the thing fixed. Since beginning of July, it's been nothing but a breeding ground for mosquitoes. I have now dumped mosquito dunks into it, trying to cut down on the mosquitoes.
Documented via video and pics. Still not fixed.
My A/C in the bedrooms was out from July 24 to the end of August. I already had someone scheduled to come in Aug. 2. But FIL and CPA dicked around trying to figure out whether it was under warranty.
It was under warranty but not for labor, and I knew that and the company that eventually fixed it, the one I'd originally contacted knew that, but FIL and CPA dicked around.
Documented.
Weeds. When I ran the house, I had the landscaper come in twice a week to keep control of weeds. I live in the Desert Southwest. When the monsoons hit, the weeds take over, and the property is large.
My daughter and SIL pulled weeds. I pulled weeds. I lost a whole mess of plants to bind weed, and I lost a mess of plants outside the property. Not sure why. Possibly a sprinkler issue.
Problem is no one is supervising the landscaper. He doesn't work for me. He works for FIL who is back east.
Documented. Video and pics.
Cable bill. CPA, per interim orders, is supposed to pay "basic" cable bill, which is $53 per month. They've paid it only once. They owe me $212.
Documented.
Housekeeping Services. Per interim, housekeeper is to be paid $900 per month. First, they wouldn't let her work because she didn't have Workers Comp (not required for a sole .
proprietorship out here).
She now has workers comp and they still won't let her work, saying they have to verify it. She hasn't worked here since April, I think. She's middle income. She needs the money.
Documented.
FIL and CPA have given me no documents to file taxes, only said that STBX will file individually. I had no income except from him , and I am paying a mortgage on another house. On paper it would look like I have hidden money (drug dealer?) so that I'm able to pay bills on that other house.
Hired a new CPA. She's out of the country. She will take care of it.
Documented.
The reason I'm documenting all this is that I suspect FIL will offer me a lifetime interest in the house, with his overseeing "maintenance" of the asset. If that happens, I want to show why I cannot live like that.
Not only is FIL not taking care of what he refers to as the asset (this place never looked like this when I took care of it), he also unilaterally cut me off, forcing me to get food stamps.
FIL is a public person.
Documented.
You are doing just fine (not trying to invalidate you... .I'm sure you feel otherwise many times)! It appears to me you are a bit "reactive"... .but you reach out to friends, Ls and these boards and seem to take advice onboard and move forward.
FF, I truly do think that you're trying to invalidate me. Truth is I need people's genuine reactions, or I wouldn't ask.
My T was really helpful yesterday, even after I'd said I was fine and didn't even need to talk.
She asked the right questions to get me to realize that I was being reactive. Not a problem. What I have learned throughout is when I'm feeling or being reactive, not to act. Don't email L, don't go online. Instead, get on here. Instead, check in with friends and my 2 kids. My sisters, because they're my sisters, take my side. They tell me what an ***hole my FIL is, how I'm better than he, all that.
And still as cool as that is to have my sisters hate my FIL, I need people like you and my T to give me feedback so I can approach this differently.
My goal is to get a fair settlement. To achieve that goal, I need to use my head more than my heart, which brings me to chess.
I never play it because... .I don't want to lose any of my pieces, and when my opponent takes even a pawn, I get upset. True.
I realize it's a game, I realize it's strategy, and I'm good at strategy. I like to play card games, such as Bridge or Hearts or Pinnochle, which all require a certain amount of strategy, but with chess, I anthropomorphize all my pieces and get upset when I lose them.
FF
Thanks!
TMD