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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: May 18, 2017, 12:58:14 PM »

My ex BPD gf ended the relationship in march, after an intense 12 months. During which time she ended it 3 times, but never for longer than 2 weeks each time. But March was the end and she told me never to contact her again, which I didn't, but she contacted me I went round and she verbally attacked me, and I never saw her again.

I was off fake book for 3 months and went back on it last week and posted a really nice comment on her page, in relation to a post she put on. She blocked me. So much for 'I'll always love you and be there for you whatever happens'.

So I got blocked moved on and was ok.

Yesterday I got a Facebook messenger message from her mum, she wrote 'Thank you again for such nice comments and mostly thank you for being such a good friend and supporting ****** x'.

I told her we weren't friends anymore and I hadn't heard from her and was blocked on Facebook. Her mum didn't give much of a response.

My ex is very close to her mum, and I got the impression that mum thinks I'm still on the scene when I haven't been for some time.

And I've never met her mum not spoken to her. I have sent her 1 text message last year and a Christmas card, that's it? So was surprised she contacted me.

Any thoughts as to why mums contacted me or what's going on?

Am I being over sensitive or is something going on re possible attempt at re-engaging me, and why doesn't my ex do it, why get her mummy to do it

Thanks for any advice and thoughts
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« Reply #1 on: May 18, 2017, 01:09:34 PM »

remember, a recycle takes two willing participants.

it sounds like her mother appreciated your comment and thanked you for it.

what do you think?

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« Reply #2 on: May 18, 2017, 02:16:32 PM »

It doesn't sound like one. It sounds like a sincere reach out.

You did the right thing in this situation being you respected and liked her mum. You kindly responded.

I wouldn't put much extra thought into it. You were and are liked. That's a nice thing to hear, right?
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