hollycat
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
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« on: September 26, 2015, 06:18:08 PM » |
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BPD Husband moved out June 29th. Rather, he was moved out. He told me he didn't want to be "here" which I took to be with me and that he was "in HELL." So, I told him I did not want him to be with me feeling like that, and he needed to find somewhere else to go. After 3 days of arguing (this was before I officially knew about his borderline diagnosis), he said something which made me totally lose my temper and I threw some water at him. Not the water bottle, mind you, but water. He went ballistic, screamed: You will never abuse me again, and proceeded to punch the refrigerator. He then said: you will never teach again, I am having you arrested for assault and he did indeed call the police. Well, they showed up, he was nasty, nothing happened. I left my house for a while and when I came home, I refused to deal with him. His mother texted me and she ended up buying a plane ticket for him. I took him to the airport later that night. Over the course of the last 3 months, I have received a barrage of devaluing, insulting, depreciating and downright nasty text messages. We have only spoken once on the phone. I posted elsewhere he came and got his stuff this past week. I have been a little wobbly about NC. I love him but I don't love how he acts and I am relieved to be away from him. Still, I am a little wobbly and a little afraid of recycling. Today I saw my adult sons for the first time in 7 months. We had a wonderful day together and the oldest one told me he was thinking of moving from South Carolina to live with me in Florida for a while. I was ecstatic to hear this. All of a sudden, engaging in more crazy making behavior with Husband seemed utterly ridiculous. My sons were appalled to hear I had any positive feelings for him at all. They may be the very best reasons I will stay away from Husband and ultimately file for divorce.
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