Realizing more my own issues and how much I enabled the situation. Now having to rebuild my life; was the guy whose focus was managing his relationship, now getting my own identity back. Thanks.
This is important for you as a person. You don't want to lose your humanity and self-worth to someone who will just keep taking and never be satisfied.
My ex wants me to move in with her and become, for lack of a better term, her pet. I wouldn't be allowed to have a life of my own, friends or my own, or pursue my own interests. I wouldn't give in to that because it seems crazy and runs counter to my own well being. So she got someone else. A guy who for all intents and purposes is her pet. He rarely leaves her house because he came from a different state and doesn't know anyone here, and he doesn't have job. He just hangs around like a pet. Still she calls me all the time and has something to complain about.
I think that a lot of people with BPD don't realize that true love means helping them face the problem and find a long term solution instead of just enabling them.