Conceitedness and Arrogance... A Mask, or What?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I fell for the pwBPD because he was humble, sweet, and didn't seem like the kind of guy that discriminated against looks, stature, or anything like that. Heck, he's not THAT good looking, but comes from a wealthy family.

He prides himself on being raised by a mother that taught him to "respect the beauty of women and treat them like queens", yet I see things like this posted by him, anonymously, that he doesn't know I can see:

"Personally, I think it's a mistake going to college in this state. Too many bible swearing, country sounding women who can't live in the city. Proud to be a City Boy... Waitin for my city girl."

How arrogant was that? It's like he feels above everyone else. I sense that from all his posts. All he seems to say recently are:

"There are no girls lately who seem worth it to ask out... . "

"I can't wait to worship a woman like this famous artist did *insert famous statue*"

I mean, that is something I've picked up on from him. It's slipped up a few times from him when he's said things about religion and said he was a realist and I was not, as he is Jewish and I'm a Christian, when I have NEVER attacked his faith. But, what is funny, is that he posted he resonated more with Christian viewpoints, one time.

Sometimes I want to bang my head against the wall with the inconsistencies.

A country woman go into a fight with him about the post he put tonight, concerning country women and he proceeded to mock her, belittle her, and make her look stupid, while trying to seem like he was being sweet.

Do they pick meaningless arguments to make themselves feel better?

Sometimes I really question whether he's BPD, or a straight-up psychopath.

[misssouthernbelle]

I fell for the pwBPD because he was humble, sweet, and didn't seem like the kind of guy that discriminated against looks, stature, or anything like that. Heck, he's not THAT good looking, but comes from a wealthy family.

He prides himself on being raised by a mother that taught him to "respect the beauty of women and treat them like queens", yet I see things like this posted by him, anonymously, that he doesn't know I can see:

"Personally, I think it's a mistake going to college in this state. Too many bible swearing, country sounding women who can't live in the city. Proud to be a City Boy... Waitin for my city girl."

How arrogant was that? It's like he feels above everyone else. I sense that from all his posts. All he seems to say recently are:

"There are no girls lately who seem worth it to ask out... . "

"I can't wait to worship a woman like this famous artist did *insert famous statue*"

I mean, that is something I've picked up on from him. It's slipped up a few times from him when he's said things about religion and said he was a realist and I was not, as he is Jewish and I'm a Christian, when I have NEVER attacked his faith. But, what is funny, is that he posted he resonated more with Christian viewpoints, one time.

Sometimes I want to bang my head against the wall with the inconsistencies.

A country woman go into a fight with him about the post he put tonight, concerning country women and he proceeded to mock her, belittle her, and make her look stupid, while trying to seem like he was being sweet.

Do they pick meaningless arguments to make themselves feel better?

Sometimes I really question whether he's BPD, or a straight-up psychopath.

[GreenMango]

The label is more for the pros to assess treatment. Looking at the behaviors is a little more helpful when looking for ways to approach dealing with the person.

Arguments are a great way for people to transfer their junk onto others. Frustrated? Pick a fight.