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« on: December 31, 2013, 07:37:30 AM »

My New Year Resolution:

1. I resolve not to view my divorce as a failure but to see it as a courageous act. I chose to go into the unknown future as opposed to living with pain that i became accustomed to.

2. I resolve to forgive my ex, she knows not what she does.

3. I resolve to look deep inside myself and work on refining my character.

4. I resolve to focus on my emotions to loving, caring for my kids, my supportive family and friends.

5. Lastly, I resolve to truly believe that god (higher power as you see it) has a plan for us all. What happened was meant to... .The best is yet to come.

Please add to the list.


Please add to my list.
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« Reply #1 on: December 31, 2013, 08:40:53 AM »

Hi Samthewiss

How are you doing today?

About your resolution list:

I miss compassion for yourself. Honestly I would put it instead of number 2. To avoid an overload. 

2. I resolve to practice self-compassion every day. What I mean is just accept your own feelings and thoughts. Be nice with your self. No negative self talk.

Forgiving your ex will follow if you are better and detached.

my 2 cents.

I wish you all the best for the next year. 
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« Reply #2 on: December 31, 2013, 08:51:34 AM »

 Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

Be good to yourself, and always take care of yourself, sam. 
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« Reply #3 on: December 31, 2013, 09:21:09 AM »

so true. Thank you for reminding me
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« Reply #4 on: December 31, 2013, 11:31:09 AM »

My New Year Resolution:

1. I resolve not to view my divorce as a failure but to see it as a courageous act. I chose to go into the unknown future as opposed to living with pain that i became accustomed to.

2. I resolve to forgive my ex, she knows not what she does.

3. I resolve to look deep inside myself and work on refining my character.

4. I resolve to focus on my emotions to loving, caring for my kids, my supportive family and friends.

5. Lastly, I resolve to truly believe that god (higher power as you see it) has a plan for us all. What happened was meant to... .The best is yet to come.

Please add to the list.


Please add to my list.

I resolve to survive.

bleah. Now I sound like my X.
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« Reply #5 on: December 31, 2013, 05:27:16 PM »

1.  I resolve to listen to my gut and instincts. They are never wrong.

2.  I resolve to be kind to myself.

3.  I resolve to believe in myself.

4.  I resolve to never settle for less than I deserve and I will not allow fear to ever stand in my way.

5.  Finally I resolve to believe that I am worthy lovable and an amazing person who deserves great things.
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« Reply #6 on: December 31, 2013, 05:28:34 PM »

5.  Finally I resolve to believe that I am worthy lovable and an amazing person who deserves great things.

I have a HUGE problem with this. Much work to do... .
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« Reply #7 on: December 31, 2013, 05:41:19 PM »

I'm resolving to stop being so nice to my ex.

I need to stop pretending our entire relationship wasn't a disaster and start treating her like the mistake she was. It's a huge success to be away from her, so I need to rejoice in it and stop pining away for something that wasn't even pleasant to begin with.
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