Welcome to the board LadyTitan
BPD is a confusing disorder to understand and probably even harder to live with
You've been dating for 2 months? Did you know him for some time before that? Is it his mother who seems to be pushing for him to become Tanya?
What should I do?
Don't know if you've studied up on this, but there are Lessons provided on the side of this page that will give you a better understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder. I think I'd start there and then come back here with any questions and concerns.
How do you feel about all this? What if Tony were to become Tanya?