Have you thought of joining a support group for women who are survivors of abusive relationships? Every area has some of these; you could phone a domestic abuse shelter to get a list.
My friend whose ex-husband mistreated her joined one and it was of great assistance to her.
After a couple of years of attending the support group, she started to attend groups that were focused on healthy activities, like dining-out clubs and book clubs.
In the first stages of getting over the pwBPD, however, I don't think that the "healthy activity" groups speak directly enough to what you are going through.
Sweet Charlotte
The only group I have joined is this one and thus far have found it to be helpful. I have joined a walking/running group and that's really nice to have something healthy to look forward too.
I'm hoping to keep getting more information from others on how they handle/handled things.
It's really nice to be able to communicate with others who are in a similar situation... .
Thanks for you response.