an amazing book found.

[Butterfly12]

I've just discovered this book and am blown away by how helpful it is. Now to get my husband to read it... .

The High Conflict Couple

bpdfamily.com/book-reviews/high-conflict-couple

Has anyone else read it? What did you find helpful in your findings?

Very curious.

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[Daniell85]

I read it a couple of years ago.

I think if you don't already have deep damage from the relationship, it's an awesome book that reminds you to treat your partner with the same degree of consideration and respect you had when you first met them.

And to not come into a conversation with a bad spirit.

What I found in my own situation is that the shocks have many times been too sudden and too deep and I myself have been struck so hard by them that I have not been able to act with care and consideration when trying to start a conversation.

Right or wrong of me, it's what has happened a lot.

[Skip]

It was part of the inspiration for this video: https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflict

[LilMe]

My uBPDh didn't even make it through the first lesson before he refused to be subjected to 'the rubbish'. Sigh. Maybe if your partner actually wants to try to improve the relationship it will go better for you! Let us know how it goes.

[Butterfly12]

Yeah, I haven't even figured out how to broach the subject of a book he "should read."  The fact that there is no mention of "blame" or "fault" or "sides" might be helpful... .

Sigh. Although reading through it there is much that doesn't even pertain to us... .like the spending time together or sex things. Ha. Try separation for over two years and not trusting me to not call the cops on him when he hurts me. I wish we could get past that.